Today I am thankful for the ability to see both sides of an issue. I’m fortunate to have people in my life that can agree with me or disagree with me and love me either way. I’m glad that I posses the ability to look and think beyond flashy news headlines and raging activists and not allow them to be a distraction.
Over the last month I have scrolled through the recent hot topic, bit my tongue long enough and I just have to comment on it, because this was never an issue in and of itself. It’s not an issue because of religion, nor is it good people against bad people. It became an issue because we aren’t a smart society, and regardless of whatever laws pass or don’t pass going forward, the root problems aren’t going away until we make them go away.
There are a lot of people out there who simply disagree with the idea of playing God and deciding whether a potential life should live or not. There’s also the unless it’s absolutely necessary, it’s unnecessary mindset and those truly logical pro lifers who are also anti-fertility treatment and radical supporters of adoption, which is a great position to be in.
My question is, why are we so stupid and incapable of addressing the dozens of problems that caused this epidemic in the first place? (i.e. the worst healthcare system ever, economic inequality, limited access to contraception, inadequate sex education, lack of responsibility, lack of fertility awareness, bad parenting, uninvolved parenting, mental illness, poverty, child abuse, rampant misogyny that often leads to the R word… Why can’t we go upstream on any of these individual issues and minimize requests for the procedure in the first place?
I’ll tell you why – because we’re lazy, self absorbed and don’t want to deal with any of it.
Unfortunately, we don’t have a single, perfect, overall solution, and no matter how passionate we are about shouting our opinions from either side of the fence, fixating on the yes or the no without putting any logical thought into finding a real solution is just adding fuel to the already blazing fire. This is a massive problem, but it isn’t black or white and if we honestly believe that slapping a law into place that either says we’re allowed to do this or we’re not allowed to do this is going to fix the deep running roots of the problem, we’re part of the problem.